Use Your Outside Voice

You know when you were a kid running around like crazy and getting into all kinds of adventures (aka trouble) and making lots of noise and laughing a lot?

Justin and Me
My brother and I as kids

Then, some adult, usually your parent or teacher would say, “Calm down and use your inside voice”.

And then, slowly and strangely, somewhere down the line, we become the adult?

Yah, well, sorry but we’re changing back. Britton and I have had a complete revolution from our life as adults and are turning back into kids again. It wasn’t exactly a calculated decision. It just sort of happened. Kind of like becoming adults. We have just sort of become kids again.

We spend so much time now just living and playing and laughing at all our mistakes and the strangeness of life again that it was bound to happen. We are outdoors so much more and are doing so many things that kids would do, we sometimes have to remind ourselves that there are still people who have to wake up at a prescribed time, stay in the lines, keep doors shut, wear clothes (or shoes), have schedules and clocks, and act “normal”.

We don’t anymore.

We now have extra time for whatever. The first things that start to come back when you return to being a kid again are creative pursuits like art, music and games.

Cassie and GuitarLearning to play the guitar

I have heard that a good guide for where you should orient yourself in setting your life’s path/purpose  is to ask yourself what you loved to do as a kid. A kid of around 10-12, when you knew a little bit about your choices and preferences, but you still just knew how to have fun and not take things so seriously. Give it a try and see what you come up with and how it aligns with your life now.

When I was a kid I LOVED summertime, swimming and animals. If I could have designed my life when I was about 10 years old it would have been a constant summer of swimming, playing with friends, reading, drawing, learning new things and having lots and lots of animals.

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Now: Lotsa turkeys!

When Britton was a kid he had a BB gun, went swimming daily in the summers, messed around with technical gadgets, played guitar and bass, played outside with friends and enjoyed video games.

Sounds pretty close! We’ve added in a few other interests, but basically…our lives have come full circle back to being kids again. Kids with a few more responsibilities, but a kid’s life none-the-less.

Still, sometimes we get caught in our old, adult-like ways. For instance, talking at a relatively normal indoor  volume. When we are outside we are often busy with something: turkeys or chickens, pulling weeds, watering plants, sawing down trees, making trails, etc. And so if we talk normally to one another and are on two sides of the yard, we can’t hear each other and so we end up saying it multiple times. So now, we remind each other to “use your outside voice!”

Just today we took a long walk around the property. With four acres of jungle, this is not a quick or easy task. It took us about 2 1/2 hours to hike around and clear some trails.

Almond tree
On a huge upturned tropical almond tree in the bottom of the quebrada of the property

We have many large mango trees all over the jungle and so we are going to call it mango tree trail.

Mango magic tree
Mango tree at the base of the quebrada that would make a great treehouse or campfire area (when dry)

It is pretty amazing, actually, that we haven’t even really seen half the property. But it makes it fun too…every kid loves doing some exploring. And we always find cool stuff.

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Not sure what plant this is but it was growing on top of another plant

Shell Ginger
There is a huge shell ginger plant that is growing from the front gate area all the way down the slope
Peach tree
The peach tree has even flowered!

It has been such a kick to be a kid in a grown-up’s body. Sure there are those pesky responsibilities that we didn’t have as kids, but there are also all those resources we didn’t have then too. And don’t forget the things that you wanted and weren’t allowed as kids, we now CAN have and do as adults. It’s the best of both worlds, really.

And I don’t mind saying that loudly.

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8 thoughts on “Use Your Outside Voice

  1. Mitch

    If you don’t mind a grown-up-type comment, I think there’s a timely book in what you guys are doing. [Yeah,, I know, that kind of defeats the purpose 🙂 ]

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  2. Dave

    The mystery plant looks like a bromeliad. Once they’re attached to something, they can get what they need from the air around them. Almost like these two Puerto Rican bloggers I heard of . . .

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  3. mom

    I think it is a bromeliad plant too. Love the pictures especially when you and Justin were little. Those were the days…..I remember the day…the puppy bit his finger and he was not happy about it. Love you guys, miss you too! Have fun being a kid again and remember: this life is not a dress rehearsal it’s the real thing. MOM or char

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  4. Cassie Post author

    Torrie -tell D that’s a pretty good one. It made both of us laugh out loud.

    Mitch- Thanks for the encouragement. Sometimes I feel like we’ve already written a book! haha

    Dave- I was thinking tillandsia which is a bromeliad-type plant. We have those big spiky bromeliads that look like pineapples all over and these looked so different. Plus it was raised in the air, on top of the other plant so I wasn’t sure.

    Mom- I love you and miss you too! Thanks for giving me such a great childhood and your support in us moving so that we could be kids all over again (hey at least you don’t have to hire a babysitter this time around! ;).

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  5. Maria

    Cassie and Britton, your land is amazing. I know that my husband would love to have land like that. You see he was born in the country in San German and I am a city girl from Manhattan, so I will have to adjust if that is which awaits us.

    Currently we are in Humacao and looking for a place to rent and he wants country and I want city, so we will see which one wins out. either way, we are happy to finally be on the island.

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  6. Cassie Post author

    Hi Maria,
    Our philosophy whenever possible is to say “yes, and” rather than “either, or”. So in the case of our house in Greeley as well as here in Rincon we like to be right on the outskirts of town, so that we can have it all. Just far enough away to feel like you’re somewhat secluded but close enough to walk somewhere and definitely close enough to drive anywhere.

    Even here, we actually live in a neighborhood and are just one off-shoot from the most well-known road in Rincon, but we are essentially at the end of the road so the cuerdas back to an open valley and the ocean beyond.

    We are not big city types, so that made our decision to move to the west coast a little easier too. I would suggest imagining the ideal situation for both of you and then thinking up places where that would work.

    Hope you find your perfect fit as well! 🙂

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  7. Fran and Steve

    You guys did it right. If only we had been able to move back to the island 20 years ago…. We’ve decided we no longer want the country life, so we are selling our beautiful Maunabo finca. We’re also trying to buy a new house in the Fajardo/Luquillo area, so we will either be selling or renting out our current Humacao house, in case Maria is interested! — Fran

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